Why must people spend their time proportioning blame for the events in their life they are not happy with?
In life there are no villains/heroes/innocent bystanders, just people and the choices they make, or the choices they choose to ignore. If your choice was to not fight for what you wanted, to let yourself feel, or to continue when you should have stopped, the blame lies solely with yourself.
There is nothing worse than a person who feels hard done by. Especially when they should be grateful for what they had, or grateful to be rid of something they never wanted anyway.
The true game of life is shutting up and getting on with it.